Should I Scold Her For Lying, Or Applaud Her Imagination?
My 3-year-old likes to make things up.
“My old, old Grandma, in my old, old day, took me to the beach and we went surfing.”
“Are you talking about Nana?”
“No! My old, old Grandma!”
We think we figured out that she is talking about her Great Grandmother, whom she has only met two or three times. She is 94 years old. I don’t think she’s been surfing in the last three years.
Sometimes she’ll tell us something that she did at school ‘Last morning.’ I think this means yesterday morning. Until the summer day camp she started last week, she had not been to school, except Sunday school. But she doesn’t fly there in her pink plane, or ride there in her pink bus, and it’s not far, far away. Also, the church building is not pink.
These stories make her six-year-old brother very angry. He says, “We know you’re lying!” She just shrugs him off. I despise lying. But, I think it’s only a lie if you’re actually trying to deceive. I answer my son incorrectly for a number of reasons. His usual response: “You’re teasing!” He is correct. Since I know he knows what I am saying is not true, I consider it teasing, not lying.
Is my daughter teasing or lying? When she’s 16 and starts ‘teasing’ about where she’s been and whom she’s been with, it will be a different story.
For now, I’ll continue to give her the benefit of the doubt.
Is this teasing or lying? What would you do? Let me know in the comment section below.
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